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Something has been really nagging at me about the media and research around number of people opposed to breastfeeding in public and the more recent press (and research) which points to community understanding and lack of information for potential (and soon to be and current) breastfeeders.

And it hit me at 2am this morning. As things are wont to do. Grrr.

Anyway, it occurred to me that … well, actually a few things occurred to me.

The first being, and I’ve said this before, that “breast is best” is not actually informing anyone of the benefits of breastfeeding. Although that could possibly just be me who won’t setting for “do it because I said so” and have to know all the ins and outs of why I should or shouldn’t be doing something, from which I will then weigh up both sides, throw in my own beliefs and make a choice based on that.

Serioulsy though, there has been HEAPS of research that shows this is the case.

Notwithstanding the morals (or lack of if you prefer) of the companies that manufacture formula (which is not what this post is about and best saved for one that is), it does come pretty close to matching breastmilk. Althought here are a few teensy things, like replication of DHA that it just can’t do.

Anyhoo. The main thing that occurred to me is that whilst the information pertianing to the benefits of breastfeeding and why it is best is available if you ask for it, the thing I believe is being sorely overlooked is that, for some people it’s just not a priority for them. I do want to say “don’t care”, but that comes across as a little harsh and will undoubtably be read as saying they don’t care about their kids. Which is crap. I’m just saying it’s not important or is irrelevant to them. Read on …

I mean, we pretty much all know that eating foods high in saturated fats, fast- and takeaway foods, prepackaged foods etc etc is not good for out health. Yet millions of people do it.

Not because they don’t know, but because the alternative is not a priority for them.

Same with breastfeeding. Just about every Mum wants what is best for their child. So what is best? Well that is all a matter of opionion and belief and needs and wants and a heap of other things.

Some feel that being with your child 24/7, feeding them only by the boob, cuddling them constantly and acting on their every sound is “doing what is best for my child”.

Others feel it is Mum being at work to provide for the family financially, so the more expensive yet healthier food options, and greater oppotunity to participate in activities is what’s best.

Sometimes Mum needs to do something away from the kids for her emotional and mental wellbeing; whatever that something is (work, business, study, coffee mornings with no kids …)

And this list could go on for days and days and days.

None of these are “wrong” and they are all perfectly acceptable. It’s just dependant on the individual.

Which is often ignored when it comes to breastfeeding education. There’s lost of fabulous information about the health benefits, but consideration for the priorities of people. Especially Mum.

Mums, for the most part, know that breastfeeding has loads of benefits. It’s hard to miss the message. It’s rammed down your throat in any printed material relating to pregnancy and birth, by any remotely medically qualified person, including the grocer and the old lady up the road who loves a chat and a significant amount of family and friends. Definitley hospital personnel (especially the canteen lady), midwives, maternal and child health nurses and more.

My point is, we know it. We can barely escape it. The actual benefits, sure, there does need to be a heap more explaining and informing, especialy for those who need it. It is necessary, it is essential and, I’m sure, would do wonders for increasing the bresatfeeding rates, if that is what is required.

However, whilst we all know to some degree or another, we don’t all priorities it. To be quite honest, some women find breastfeeding so boring as to want to blow their brains out with the sheer mundanity of it. And thats the ones who aren’t depressed. Some feel that, in their personal circumstances, the child’s emotional and mental wellbeing are better served by not being breastfed. For whatever the reason is that they’re not.

Just my opinion. Same as we know eating low fat foods, lots of fruit and vege and all the rest of the messages is “best” for us as adults.

We know it, we just don’t do it.

I think it would be an angle worth taking into consideration when educating on feeding baby.

Gorgeous Renee over at Bra Queen and I have been working on a bit of a campaign to show our support for depression. Or, rather, support for people who are experiencing depression and support for services that support these people.

The campaign came about after we were sent a bazillion messages asking us to write the colour of the bra we were wearing in our Facebook Status, don’t tell the boys so we can keep them guessing, and it was all, allegedly to show support for Breast Cancer.

We kinda thought 1) Why hide it? and 2) What about all the other causes that also have a significant effect on individuals, their families and the community, and also lead to death?

We chose depression because it’s something we both passionate about changing … mostly, bringing it out into the open, letting people know it’s ok to discuss their thoughts and feelings, and provide information and support for those who are affected by being a friend, family member or parnter.

It is something I, personally, have experienced and am passionate about making a difference to.

The gist of the campaign is to show that we are not afraid to show our support … we’ve shown this over the last few weeks by sharing blog posts about or own experiences, writing a book including that includes honest accounts of depression, talking about it, and sharing resources and information for those in need, including friends, family and partners.

We’re taking it one step further and just how Not Afraid To Show Our Support and invite you to do the same. Renee has greated a group over at Facebook – Be Open To Depression and Show Your Support - where you can join and show just now not afraid you are to show your support, just as we have …

and I have to include this photo (Taken by Kelly at Photos By Kelly) - coz I love it, even thought it’s 18 months old … still, it’s showing my support

We ask that you join us in showing your support, exposing it and getting it out there – take a pic, put it on your Facebook Status, blog about it, write an article, whatever … just show your support! And you can tell the boys, too

We both say A BIG THANK YOU to Brava Lingerie & MJPhotography for your support Lingerie was donated by the LOVELY girls at Brava Lingerie & Photography was done by MJPhotography - thanks.

A recent study has shown that most Gen-Yers are “embarrassed to breastfeed in public“.

According to an article on news.com.au and study by Queensland University of Technology showed that:

More than 50 per cent of women believed it would be uncomfortable to breastfeed in public, and a majority of men and women did not want their child to be breastfed in public for fear of embarrassment.

It also went on to say that most also did not fully understand the benefits of breastfeeding, ages to introduce solids etc etc.

Does anyone else think that perhaps the constant negative publicity surrounding breastfeeding in public my the media, and seemingly encouraged by organisations that “support” breastfeeding may have impacted on, oh, I don’t know, people who are yet to experience having a baby?

I’m alert to such things in the media and have had many a rant on this blog and others about the fact that while 27% of the population may be against it, it would indicate that 63% are for it, don’t care, or don’t know. Taking into account the ’for it’ and ‘don’t care’, one (perhaps I’m that only one?) would assume that it’s pretty much culturally acceptable.

Unless, of course, that remaining 63% fall into the “don’t know” category, in which case they are not living in this country, or been anywhere in the vicinity of me, who openly breastfed in various public places, and some VERY public places.

What I’m getting at is I find it highly unlikely that a majority of those who aren’t against breastfeeding in public fall into the “what are you talking about?” category.

Further, what I’m getting at is that 27% – ie less than a third – are against it, yet the focus seems to be on that particular group and what they think and believe. This is the minority, people!

Since when do we bow to them?!

Not suggesting there isn’t a need for some kind of education for the masses to understand it more and accept it. Particularly now that we’ve spent so bloody long focussing on all the negatives of it and we now have to undo it all!

I also don’t like to discredit the possible impact of Western societies penchant for sexualising boobs either, and do wonder if the results of this study were perhaps influenced party by this, and also the fact that the cohort haven’t actually experienced having a baby and doing stuff with it. I know before I had kids, I didn’t think of my boobs as being a source of food for anyone, as were the thoughts of many women I know. So potentially flawed results.

As for understanding how and why breastfeeding is “preferred”, some information would be really handy. “Breast is best” and “bottle feeding is obscene” is, sadly, not information and is, in fact, bullying and … obscene!

And perhaps if it wasn’t rammed down out throats (pardon the pun) every 5 minutes during our pregnancies, we may be a little more open to hearing about it’s benefits and not stressing about not being able to do it for fear of being considered a bad mother!

So, hopping off my high horse now, I, personally, am not at all surprised at this outcome, and will continue my rhetoric about focussing on the positives of breastfeeding in public; like most people don’t care if you do or not, and perhaps we can then affect cultural change. Not that a majority of the population need it, coz they seem to be pretty cool about it.

And I do have to apologise to any non-breastfeeders – actually, scrap that, I will use the term loud and proud – bottle feeders out there if I have inadvertently reinforced any negative feelings you have about bottle feeding. I say kudos to you, and you are doing the absolute best you can be doing for your bubs – you all rock and as far as I’m concerned if you are feeding it, caring for it and loving it then you ROCK! Keep it up

As most of you know, I live in a house full of testosterone (3 boys and a hubby).

Doing Stupid Stuff is just a part of our life.

Well, their’s. I do a lot of head shaking and saying “you’re an idiot” and “no, we’ve run out of bandaids. Again” and “well, if you were playing Silly Buggers then I’m not surprised you got hurt” and so on and so forth. But I’ve learnt to live with it.

Along with farting, eating copious amounts of anything, noise and miscellaneous Chaos.

I know I’m generalising, and I know there are girls who do this stuff too, but there are reasons for the generalisations and doing stupid dangerous things tends to be in the domain of boys.

(Whether you believe it is nature or nurture is irrelevant – boys do more dangerous and stupid stuff than girls, generally speaking)

Whilst I know my hubby and I ‘encourage’ this behaviour, to a degree, at this point in their lives it is mostly done in ’safe’ conditions. Either one of us are watching, helping, talking through and generally ensuring that they are relatively safe. Any situation that looks like it’s going to result in me passing up a glass of wine so I can sit in emergency for 14 hours is quickly put to a stop.

And this is what scares the bejeezus out of me.

There will come a point in their lives when we are not there to talk them through where to safely put their feet, or stop them when they do or say something that will seriously maim or kill them.

The incident of a few weeks back where 5 ‘kids’ (young adults – and one kid) where killed in a high speed car accident, where the driver was restricted and way over the blood alcohol limit is an example. Extreme, some may think, but it happens and it terrifies me.

I do hope that my hubby and I have instilled better sense of judgement in them than that.

I do know that kids are wired for testing boundaries and trying stupid, dangerous stuff. Some more than others. I believe it is inate. I also know that modeling from parents, teaching and encouragement by parents and respect for parents plays a big part in their behaviours. Other adults are included in this modeling and teaching as well; teachers, relatives, family friends, TV stars …

Whether that adult is considered responsible or not is irrelevant. They impact upon developing kids and young adults by being a part of their lives.

I digress slightly.

Boys will be boys and will do stupid stuff. Dangerous stuff. They are impacted on and influenced by those around them and close to them, particularly the male figures in their lives.

Their Dads are possibly the biggest influence in their lives (those how have Dads around them, of course)

An awesome colleague of mine, Pete Aldin (better known as a Freaked Out Father) has organised a Dads and Lads retreat.

If you’re a Mum of boys aged between 11-13, and terrified as I am (or not )I urge you to  pass this info onto their Dad and encourage them to sign up (please do not force him to do it or tell him you want him to. Let him sort it out for himself).

If you’re a Dad and want to strengthen, create or recreate a bond with your son, and be an awesome role model that he will respect, or you’re just as scared as we Mums of Boys, or you just want a boys weekend away with benefits then I say “do this”

Dads and Lads Retreat … for further info visit http://www.freakedoutfathers.com/upcoming-events/

(No doubt there will also be lots of farting, miscellaneous Chaos, eating and probably some stupid boy stuff thrown in as well. Enjoy!)

There’s this new book out, a reaction to the overparenting and cotton-wooling of our children.

Not me, obviously – I’m renowned for underparenting and saying things like “you got yourself up there, you get yourself down” and “Is there blood? Do you need a bandaid? Well don’t bother me!” – but it is rife in society, unfortunately.

Anyhoo, this book is called Fifty Dangerous Things (You should let your children do) and is based on the concept that parents are overprotective and children aren’t developing fully, including learning to do things safely, to judge things and that they will learn these things through experiencing them.

I’m totally in agreeance with these concepts, that children do need to learn through experience.

I am, however, against the concept of teaching or encouraging children to do dangerous and, in this case stupid things, like boiling water in paper cups and putting CDs in microwaves. From my experience, kids do (and mine have) done stupid and dangerous things without being shown how to, complete with instructions.

Hmmm, dangerous? What is dangerous? Well, some would argue climbing a tree is dangerous. I, personally see it as part of learning and I let my kids do it. After all, there are some great developmental skills to be learnt by doing so.

I do “teach” when they do it, along the lines of “That branch won’t hold you, you dill! It’s not strong enough!” I also let them climb down themselves. I hope that when I’m not about, they recall this stuff and do so safely. No garauntees, they’re kids after all.

They’ve licked batteries (no need to read a book to find out about that), stuck fingers together with super glue (again, totally accidental, won’t do it again – they learnt, didn’t need to follow a book). They do this stuff as part of their normal learning.

Except. of course, when they’re hovered over and over-protected.

I do, however, draw the line at stupid, dangerous stuff. See, boiling water in a paper cup is asking for trouble, in my opinion. Boiling water is something, I feel, that is in the domain of parents to teach about in a safe environment, where kid’s aren’t seriously hurt.

Sure, kids climbing trees can lead to hurt kids, but I don’t feel that is putting them into a situation we know can only lead to someone being seriously hurt. I don’t believe putting them into situations that are known to be dangerous most of the time is teaching them anything. Apart from teaching them to be stupid, and it’s ok coz Mum and Dad said I could. In fact, they encourage it. Falling out of trees is just bad luck, bad judgement, or having parents who don’t let you do this stuff so you haven’t learnt how to do it safely.

Of course, in this litigous and over-protective society we know live in, our kids have fewer opportunities to learn “dangerous” stuff. Monkey bars in pre-schools are so low that most kids can touch the ground, playgrounds aren’t as high, so there is less risk of getting hurt … basically, our whole infrastructure is going against children learning through experience.

My main problem, I think, is that some people will take this book too literally, and we’ll see an increase in injuries and death due to stupidity, law suits and a rush to bubble-wrap the already not-encouraging-development playgrounds.

Argh!

Or worse, my already experimental kids (one of whom attempted to pole vault over a bed using a cardboard roll (not in the book!) and smashing his knee as the roll bent) will get hold of it and I’ll be forced to parent more than I currently am. And stock up on bandaids.

Seriously, though, there’s a fine line between learning through experience, and doing dangerous things. Anything almost gauranteed to maim or kill, I consider stupid and dangerous.

If there’s a low risk of hurt (or death) which is far outweighed by learning and developing useful skills, then, in my opinoin, that’s learning through experience.

(You can also see my comment in the article on news.com.au Kids to lick a battery and make a bomb)

I’ve been sitting on this for a bit, becuase it made me terribly sad when I first read it.

In my usual fashion, I tried to see from all possible angles, because I forget that other people are incapable of doing so. But, as I’m all about villages and support and community and the rest, this comment made me feel sick. Physically sick.

It was in relation to a post I did some time back regarding the young (6 year old) Tyler Fishlock, who is now blind due to cancer and an incident at school where he was bullied. I voiced my thoughts, not in relation to Tyler specifically, just using his case as an example of how bullies are often treated by society and their needs are not met, or their situations are not conisdered. As you know, I’m believe we are lacking villages and community suport to raise our kids, and when one poor kid is having a hard time of it, and, unfortunately, behaving in a manner that is harmful, dangerous, threatening or not socially acceptable, they really need support.

Anyhoo, part the comment on this post was:

If a 6yo hasn’t learnt by the time they start school at 5, then in my view it’s far too late and that kid is on the skids because its obviously has parents who don’t care, or who have no idea about socialising their kid.

This made me cry. This is a 6 year old child, yet it is suggested he be cast aside becuase “it’s too late”? This is the society we are raising out kids in, and these are the adults that are part of society, who think this of six year old children.

But that aside, if we cast aside these kids as there is “no hope for them” what do people serioulsy think the outcome will be?

Honestly!

We are currently seeing a heap of alleged “adults” aged anywhere up to mid-30s beating the crap out of each other, driving like idiots and wiping themselves out, bashing police, stealing, drinking etc etc. Do we think that ignoring a six year old and whatever is going on in his or her life will help this other stuff going on.

That, because its too late we shouldn’t – as a community/society – do something about it? Does this behaviour not affect us all? Why would we sit back and let this continue?

I don’t get it.

I don’t know I necessarily agree with the proposed method of dealing with bullies, whereby they are encouraged to “empathise” with the “victim” (another word I loathe, but understand it’s use), but it’s certianly a step in the right direction.

I also know it’s not as simple as dealing with just the child; just as nothing is. It’s not about one person or one incident, it’s about the familial, social, local environment, it’s how the child is parented, but also the contact he has with many other people, teachers, peers, extended family, local traders and more. Sure it may start in the home, but if that environment is, for whatever reason, not conducive to love and support, what do we do? Ignore it and hope the issue will go away?

It’s not an easy fix, and will take, in my opion, drastic social change.

Starting with changing the sickening attitude that there is “no hope” for a six year old. Any six year old.

So the government, in it’s infinite wisdom, have launched the My School website, which allows you to see how your school rates and compares it to other schools and check out how the school performs and other stuff.

(Not much other stuff from what I can gather, but whatever)

You may also have heard that it was launched yesterday – when schools officially went back – and it crashed due to “unexpected number of visits to the site”, and has had significant criticism about incorrect data and comparison of schools, and a few other things.

Um, perhaps a silly quesiton or two, but what is the point of launching such a website now? When schools have started back?

Ok, that maybe was a bit of a silly question, because it is really irrelevant when it was launched. People are checking out schools all time for their kids. In Victoria, it’s recommended you enrol your kids in pre-school of school around April or May, so I guess it’s kind of useful now.

What I really don’t understand is why the site fell to bits due to so many visitors when school has started back. Which parents are checking out to see if the school is ok now? What are they intending to do? Change schools now? Or start off with a preconceived idea about, and attitude towards the school, before they’ve even started?

I now I can be anally organised, and did check out schools a good 8 months before my first started at school, but sometimes I can be completely disorganised, like I haven’t even begun to think about next Monday when my kids do go back.

But I really do not understand checking out how “good” your school is now!

The last few weeks have been pretty full on for me.

I haven’t had a break in like, forever, I’ve been working flat out an all kinds of things (including some stuff on my book, Mad Cow’s Guide to Bad Mothering which can now be purchased over at Amazon ), school holidays, but no holiday, and just LOTS on.

I have been feeling a bit overwhelmed and, as you may have guessed from some of my posts, a tad down.

I finished off a huge job today, emailed it off and chose to give myself some time off. Cold turkey from the computer a bit too much to ask, and it would mean I’d have to deal with kids who wuld rather play with/on their DSs and make me feel redundant. And bored.

I thought I’d catch up what some friends of mine have been up to and came across this  Totally Off Topic blog post over at Tall Poppy; Mtallica’s Nothing Else Matters played by the cello’s of Apolcolyptica.

It had me mesmerised. And had me immediately searching through the CD cupboard for my Metallica CDs (actually, I sat and listened to this and yelled at hubby! He alphabetised the CD cupboard!). Located!

He put one on, turned it up and I was amazed at just how quickly my mood not just lifted, but soared! I feel like i haven’t smiled in days, and now I feel relaxed and happy.

Was even more impressed to find the 17 month old dancing away in front of the speakers! I will corrupt him yet!!!

Pretty much I’d forgotten how music can affect our mood. I know that when I’m particularly stressed, some sort of heavy metal (thrash metal for when I’m seriously overwhelmed) just … helps! I hadn’t listened to anything really for a while. It appears I missed it quite a lot.

And now I’m happy.

I’m not suggesting its the Music to Help Your Mood, but it is the music to help my  mood.

It’s also not the music for everything, and I do like to listen to lots of different styles (both country and western! Um, Blues Brothers reference for those who get it) for different things. Kid’s movie soundtracks, Riverdance, Pink Floyd, the Wiggles, ABBA, the Veronicas, Duran Duran, Linkin Park, loads of crap eighties Pop … anything and everything!

My point is, do you listen to music (or silence) when you need it? What is it you listen to? How does it help you?

And I’m off … my poor, neglected CD collection is calling for me!

(So are my poor, neglected kids, they’re hungry, and my poor, neglected hubby has just put dinner on the table ….)

I’ve recently been involved in a campaign to raise awareness of Depression. It’s not out just yet (hopefully in the next few days), but it’s all been fabulous (I hope) timing what with Mental Health Expert, Partick McGorry receiving the Australian of the Year 2010.

My bent on depression is towards women, and particularly mothers, not youth and not men. Not for any reason other than my personal experiences, my study and research I’ve conducted. Depression, generally, is pretty much the same across the board, although, obviously, certain life stages can lead to various forms of depression, as can particular incidents and … well lots of other things.

My partner in crime, Renee over a Bra Queen, did a fabulous post on depression – a Depression Checklist, and a very good one at that.

One of my things with depression has been how hidden it is. Even support organisations don’t particularly like to talk about things like “thoughts of suicide or self harm” … they’re too confronting. We all know how taboo a topic it is in society as it is, and I can’t help but feel that this “too confronting” mentality is not doing the cause much good. I acknowledge it is a hard concept to understand for those who haven’t experienced, and, as our campaign is about not being scared to show our support for those suffering depression, and to expose it, I thought (actually, I need) to share some things to get it out in the open.

Whether it’s to give some people an understanding of how it works, or to let others know that we understand, or whatever, I don’t mind. If you feel the following is affecting you, please, please call someone for help. Lifeline is a good start 13 11 14.

So what is depression like?

It’s like an insidious black worm that crawls into your brain, affecting the rational parts of it and causing it to think dark, scary black things.

It doesn’t, however, affect that part of your brain that knows how to behave in a socially acceptable manner. You know how to cover it up, how to behave so you appear confident, organised, happy, capable ..

It’s like a black veil behind your eyes. Looking out, you’re looking through a haze. Looking in, people just see you … confident, organised, happy, capable ….

The veil affects your mind. The fog you look through is a fog that surrounds your brain. Thoughts are hazy, decisions are hard to make. It’s like the synapses in your brain aren’t quite connecting, and simple things like “is it lunchtime” can’t be seen clearly, or sometimes at all, through the fog.

It’s like you want to hurt or die, but you have no “rational” thought or “reason” for wanting to. The thoughts come from nowhere, but they can be quite powerful. So powerful that the desire to drive into a tree, cut yourself, jump off a bridge can overrride all or any rational, logical thought.

You envisage cars hitting you or those you love, things falling on you, hurting you, cutting you, killing you. For some, these thoughts are wishes, for others they are intense fears that it will happen. Some people don’t get them at all. Either way, it can affect your life … fear of getting into a car that no one else can understand and you can’t explain.

Everyone around you is telling you to “snap out of it” or “I don’t know what you’re complaining about, others have it much worse”. They seem like sensible comments to make, but when your mind is not working as it should, well, people really don’t know how bad and scary it is in there. When you’re convinced the world would be better off without you, no one can unconvince you of that.

Depression is way beyond feeling blue or sad for an extended period.

Depression affects your life in ways you can’t fathom until you’ve been there. It affects the lives of those around you. You know enough to act out the right things, like getting up when your maternal and child health nurse comes to the door, or prepare a meal (if you can) for the familiy, or smile when your mother-in-law makes you a cup of tea. Inside your head is a haze, thoughts of hurt and harm and death. In side your chest is not just a long period of sad, but a sadness so deep it appears to have no end, it is debilitating and it affects everything you do.

It is depression.

I apologise if this is confronting, or makes anyone feel like they’re not coping or triggers anyone’s depression. If it does, please seek help. Immediately. And know that you are not alone and we support you.

If this has given anyone an insightd teensy understanding  into what is going on with someone who is depressed, and enable them to support in a helpful way, then I am happy.

I am not scared to show my support and to raise awareness of this insidious condition.

I hope you aren’t either.

Ha ha – we always go on about how mums keep “losing their identity” and all the rest of it when they have kids.

I keep losing my keys, but this product doesn’t help with that. It does, however, stop you from being “Sebastian’s Mum” and prevents repetitive strain injury having to scribble your name and phone number on the back of an important business card in your good eyeliner or spare crayon for other mums or dads when you hand your kid over to them. Or when you’re tying to set up that promised play date with an equally distracted parent. Or you just really have forgotten who you are and can’t remember your phone number.

Mums Card have a gorgeous range of cards – like business cards, but for Mums and Dads – which has your actual name on it! And who your kids are, in little writing, under your name! So people remember who you belong to, and you can’t pretend that your kids aren’t actually yours. Aside from that, it makes a very nice change from people saying “Hi Xavier’s Mum” or just mumbling something at you. Or feeling terribly embarrassed that you’ve been going to the same school for two years and they have no idea what your name is.

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They do have some lovely designs, are really good quality, and you can still write on them if  you need. You can add as much detail as you like; phone numbers, addresses, emails, additional contact and who they are (grandparents, nannies, husbands etc)

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